March 9 | Saint Frances of Rome

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Forced marriage, a deadly plague, a secret alliance, and a teenage girl who stood up to an empire of expectations. Today, we are talking about St. Francis of Rome. Imagine for a second that you are 11 years old. You know exactly what you want to do with your life. Dedicate yourself entirely to God as a nun. But there is a problem. A big one. You live in Rome in the 14th century, and your father has total control over your life. And I don't mean grounded for the weekend control.

In Rome at that time, a father's word was the word of God. was law. He could even sell his children into slavery or order them killed if he wanted to. So when young Frances told her dad she wanted to be a nun, and he said, no, you're getting married, she was trapped. Her father told her she was far too young to know her own mind, yet somehow old enough to be a wife.

He had already promised her to the son of another wealthy, noble family. Frances was stubborn. She had a will of steel inherited from her father. She prayed and cried, begging God to stop the wedding, until her priest asked her a tough question. Are you crying because you want to do God's will, or because you want God to do your will? Reluctantly, she gave in.

At just 13 years old, this shy, quiet girl was married off to a nobleman named Lorenzo Ponziani. Now, Lorenzo was actually a great guy, wealthy and kind. But for Frances, the wedding festivities were a nightmare. Her mother-in-law, Cecilia, loved to entertain, and expected Frances to be the life of the party, too. For a girl who just wanted silence and prayer, this social whirlwind was absolute torture.

The pressure was so intense that Frances actually collapsed. For months, she lay close to death, unable to eat, move, or speak. It was in this dark moment that she had a vision of St. Alexis, a saint who had once run away to be a beggar. He gave her a choice. Did she want to recover or not?

Frances whispered the hardest words of her life, God's will is mine. She recovered instantly, but she still had to live in a palace full of people who didn't understand her. She looked at her sister-in-law, Venoza, who seemed to love dressing up and playing cards, and Frances felt totally alone. She thought Venoza was just frivolous.

But one day, Vanazza found Frances crying in the garden. They started talking, and Frances realized she had completely misjudged her sister-in-law. It turned out, Vanazza also wanted to live a life devoted to God. What Frances thought was shallowness was actually just Vanazza's natural joy.

The two of them formed a secret spiritual team. They decided their first job was to love their families. That meant if they had to dress up, They would do it gladly. But in their spare time, they were superheroes of charity. They went to mass, visited prisons, and even set up a secret chapel in an abandoned tower of their palace to pray.

But life in the 1400s wasn't just parties. A terrible plague swept across Italy, striking Rome with devastating cruelty. Frances didn't hide in her palace. When the plague hit, her own family suffered tragedy. Her second son died. Instead of giving up, Frances took all her money and sold her possessions to buy supplies for the sick. When the money ran out, she and Vinoza went door to door begging for the poor. She even turned part of her own home into a hospital. Later, she would lose a daughter as well, but she continued to serve, convinced this life of service was necessary for the world.

Eventually, Frances founded a society of women who didn't take strict vows, but simply offered themselves to serve the poor and God. She stayed with her husband, Lorenzo, for seven years after founding the group, caring for him until he passed away, and only then did she move in to live with the community she created.

Francis of Rome proved that you don't have to escape your life to find holiness. Sometimes you have to find it right in the middle of your messy, busy family. Because she spent so much time rushing through the streets of Rome to help people, Saint Francis of Rome is the patron saint of motorists. She is also the patron saint of widows.

Remember how Francis and Venaza decided that their obligations to their family came first? They realized that even boring stuff, like making social visits or dressing up for rank, could be holy if done with love. Identify one duty you have today that you usually complain about. Maybe it's doing the dishes, walking the dog, or finishing your math homework. Today, Do it without complaining. Do it gladly, just like Francis did, treating that boring task as your own personal way of serving God. Thank you for joining us on My Daily Saint. We look forward to sharing another incredible story of faith and courage with you tomorrow.